I think by now you all know that I like to do things well. I don’t want to say perfect, because I totally accept that there is no such thing. But I feel like a lot of the time I need to “keep up” with what other moms are doing, otherwise I’m Not.A.Good.Mother.
You know the feeling.
After having D, I changed a lot about our lifestyle, especially our diet. I admit, we ate a lot of processed and convenience foods when I worked full-time, because, well, it was just easier. But when I started feeding my baby while she was still in my belly, I became more aware of garbage in, garbage out.
While being home has allowed me to make some good changes, I know I have a ways to go. I stress about it. The meat I buy isn’t always grass-fed, some fruits and veggies aren’t organic. Oh and we keep Goldfish crackers in the house. But still, we’ve made a lot of good choices too.
Except right now. Being pregnant has thrown those good habits out the window. I want mac ‘n cheese. From the box. The blue box. I want KFC mashed potatoes and gravy and frozen pizzas. I want gummy bears.
I’m tired, I’m nauseated. Nothing sounds good. I lay down a lot which means poor D is propped in front of the tv. I was feeling like I was failing. Until a sweet friend, who shares many of my views, told me to give myself grace during this time. “All bets are off when you’re pregnant,” she said. It was comforting to hear.
Logically I know this. And during a #ppdchat on Twitter yesterday regarding self-care, I realized that giving myself that grace to let some things go right now is self-care. It’s the attitude that says I’m doing the best that I can right now with what I have.
My daughter is still loved, she’s happy. I’m eating what I can and doing what I can to keep everyone healthy. It’s not ideal, but it’s the best I can do for now.
This is self-care and survival mode. This is what we need right now. And I think I’m doing pretty well.
Now where’s that ice cream?
Grab that self-care by the balls and enjoy the time. Truly. When the baby gets here, there will be little of that, your hands will be so full. Not that I don’t advocate self-care then, but it’d be much harder to do. So feel no guilt, just enjoy it!
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Oh my, I take a break for a couple of weeks and I miss the pregnancy announcement? Congratulations! Enjoy all of this time, really!
Barbara recently posted..Traveling Abroad
Being pregnant and having a toddler is hard so don’t be too hard on yourself!
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You’re doing exactly what you’re supposed to.
I remember my friend telling me to eat what my body craved. If it wanted fruit that day then eat it, if it wanted milk all day then drink it.
You’re friend is smart… listen to her and relax when you need it.
xo
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Self care is what it is all about!
Eat whatever your body is wanting, even if it is not the most healthy thing. You will be happier for it, and your baby will be fine. There are many years of healthy eating in your future.
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Take care of yourself. Eat anything you want! Pregnancy shouldn’t make you miserable. Of course, I’m not an authority on eating healthy.
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So true that all bets are off when you are pregnant. You need to take care of yourself.
And OMG, I missed your pregnancy announcement! Congrats!!! xo
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It sounds like you’re doing an amazing job. And now I want some mac & cheese and ice cream!
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Rach, you are a wonderful mom. Give yourself grace. Being pregnant and chasing after a toddler is tough. It saps you of your energy. Donut is loved and happy, and that is all that matters.
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Everyone is loved and happy and that’s all that matters. You’re doing a great job.
Kimberly recently posted..Born Yesterday
Yes and all bets are off when you have a newborn too! So extend that grace period for a long time. And really in the end what matters is that they know they are loved and safe.
I want KFC now..mmmm
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We moms are much too hard on ourselves. Bask in the happy; let go of the guilt.
Boy, I have been away! Congratulations!!!!!! Eat, eat, eat. You’re entitled:) Big hugs.
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